Step 3 - Why isn’t the Law of Attraction working?
When you are trying to vibe the right way with the law of attraction, sometimes things don’t work out. So, you begin to wonder – why aren’t the laws of the universe working for me too? But, you got it all wrong! The Law of Attraction is always working just the way it has always been working. The question is – are you still doing the same things over and over?
When you want to change things, you have to start by changing yourself little by little. In Step 1 we discussed the importance of your thoughts, but to make magic happen, wishful thinking isn’t enough. You have to change your actions and shift your paradigm or break through the terror barrier.
What is a Paradigm?
According to the many definitions our good friend, the Internet, offers - a paradigm is a set of repetitive rules, definitions or habits. But how does this fit with the Law of Attraction exactly? Well, let's put it this way: you receive what you attract. If you are living in the same paradigm and doing the same things over and over again, how can anything change?
Habits hold a bigger influence over you than you might think. One way or another, everything is by a habit. Your daily schedule, your work, and even you as a being are a multitude of habits. So, in a way, each reaction that you have, the way you resolve things, your emotions and thoughts they are all recorded into your subconscious mind and are creating a paradigm.
How do Paradigms work?
It's the subconscious mind to keep you within your comfort zone. It doesn't understand, it just calculates. Much like the Law of Attraction, your subconscious mind creates actions through the data you feed it. The paradigm becomes your cage. The more you choose to think the same, the same emotional response you will achieve. And so, you are keeping yourself within a paradigm, when success might be right behind your corner.
What is the Terror Barrier?
The Law of Attraction is constantly working. Not just for you, but for everyone. It's like an echo. What you send out comes back to you. But, this time you are not using your voice but, rather your emotions and mindset. Every time that you think that you can or can't do something, you are right! And when you are thinking that you can't do it and you are scared, that's when you know that the terror barrier is lurking around the corner.
The terror barrier is something that you experience right before you achieve your goal. To achieve any goal, you have to make a lot of changes in your life. But, what happens when you reach your goal? Considerable transition and development in your life which is something that will make your life different forever. And this is when the terror barrier is becoming a part of your life. You begin with negative thought patterns - "What if it doesn't work out?" "What if this is all for nothing?". All of these thoughts pile up one after the other until fear overtakes you.
Then fear turns into anxiety and anxiety turns into panic. And then you hit that terror barrier so hard that everything goes back the way it was. Not only does it go back, but then comes a sense of relief - "Maybe this is for the better." "Maybe it was just never meant to be." and you sit tight and hug your comfort zone without achieving your goals. When you fall back into your old patterns and habits, you become discouraged to try and change something about your life. And that's when the terror barrier cycle is complete.
The worst part is that there is no terror barrier unless you create it. There isn't anything that is holding you back to achieve your dreams and do everything you ever wanted to accept yourself.
How to Break Through the Paradigms and Terror Barriers?
The first thing that you have to understand is that you shouldn't blame yourself for creating terror barriers and paradigms. We are all creatures of habit, and even if you hate to admit it, you probably like living with your habits. But, comfort isn't going to get you anywhere. Change will. And that change starts with you! So let's smash right through that terror barrier and same old paradigms with these tips:
Believe in yourself
All the self-doubt, all the negative thoughts, it's time to kiss them goodbye and banish them from your life. Each thought that you have creates an emotional response from you. That emotional response comes from your subconscious mind. And each emotion is a vibration. So, when you are letting the negative thought overwhelm you, you are sending negative vibes that the Law of Attraction will just bounce back to you.
Even worse, if you are about to reach your goal, fear and anxiety will hit you harder than before. And if you don't control your thoughts and let them overwhelm you, guess what? That terror barrier will be there, waiting for you. Learning how to control your mind and thoughts is very important. And it all starts from believing in yourself. Become your own personal cheerleader in your mind.
Praise yourself when you do something right, be kind to yourself when you make a mistake and don't take yourself too seriously! Of course, this isn't an easy process which is why you should consider meditation and some manifestation tools to help you along the way.
Let's say that you are approaching the terror barrier in your life. Or, you've hit the terror barrier, and it bounced you right back where you started. What now? Fear and anxiety are breathing down your neck or, a sense of comfort is overwhelming you. The trick is to keep going! If you hit the terror barrier 10 times, get up and start over.
If you are sensing fear as you approach the terror barrier don't get paralyzed by it. Just remember, you are the architect of the terror barrier. You've built it, and only you know how to smash the terror barrier. So keep walking. No matter how tiny the steps, no matter the times you failed, MOVE! Because you can do it, you just have to let yourself.
Every time you are about to bring major change into your life, the terror barrier will be there waiting for you. It's not evil or anything, it's just a mechanism. But the key here is on what you are focusing. If you are thinking: "Oh no, the terror barrier is here, this will be so hard for me, what am I gonna do?" , and let yourself be discouraged, you are not doing yourself any favors. Instead, shift your perspective.
Any situation has two sides. In every bad, there is good if you are looking for it. And the terror barrier has two sides as well. On the one side is the hardship, fear, and anxiety and on the other is the knowledge that if that terror barrier is near, so is your goal. It means something amazing is going to happen to you! It means you are just one step away from the life you dreamed about! So, don't get discouraged, march on and smash that terror barrier!
You don't have to know every step of the journey before you start it. If you do know all the steps, then what is the point? How will you grow and learn anything new in this process? Every change comes with its own set of hardships but, that doesn't mean that you should give up.
Yes, breaking the terror barrier is hard, but living the same life and dreaming of a better one is worse. Whatever hardships stand in your way, whatever the terror barrier has in store for you, don't give in! Remember your goal and how much better your life is going to become once you reach it. Visualize your dreams. And remember them in each step of the journey. Even if you trip and fall, always keep your goal in mind!