Is Rejection a Reflection? How to deal

Rejection is the refusal to accept or acknowledge something and many people will more than likely face some form of rejection when seeking out personal and romantic relationships.  Rejection is never fun, however, it is important to learn how to deal with certain kinds of rejection in order to move on in a positive manner and learn from those experiences.  There are many ways to deal with rejection, but I’ve chosen three to highlight as I think they are the most effective.  

How to Deal #1: Avoid making the rejection too personal.  Rejection isn’t necessarily a reflection of who you are as a person.  Rejection in romantic situations can stem many different factors.  While you may feel hurt (which is completely normal), you should place blame on yourself.  This kind of thinking will only make the rejection more difficult to overcome.  The goal is always to overcome and learn from the circumstance.  Instead of criticizing and self deprecating, try to be your own friend and focus your energy outside of overanalyzing yourself.   

How to Deal #2: Make a conscious effort to connect to something new.  A new positive connection, whether it is with a person, place, or thing can be a healthy way to move forward from the rejection.  Positive influences can help boost your internal morale and lift your spirits. By establishing, or maintaining your true sense of belonging you can get through your period of rejection in a healthy way.   

How to Deal #3: Try to empathize.  The ability to understand and share the feelings of another can be very helpful when dealing with rejection.  I know it sounds crazy, but if you think back to a time when you were the one doing the rejecting, you may breath a bit easier.  This practice can help you remember that it isn’t always a reflection of the person being rejected.  Rejection is unfriendly in any form, but if you can look at both sides of it, you will have a less difficult time overcoming and understanding.