Three Tips for Getting the Honeymoon Feeling Back

It's been a bit since you've been dating. You might even be married now, or at least in a 'serious' relationship.  You've passed the various requisite stages of growing comfortable together.  You've seen each other through a series of highs (moments when your partner's smile brought you bliss) and a few lows (moments where the tension could shatter you both), and you've made it past them.  The butterflies, nervousness, hours spent grooming or trying to find the right out, are now behind you.  Now, you're in a state of familiarity.  Maybe not please pass the toilet paper comfort, but a place where the magic has seemed to fade.  And you want it back.  Here are the top 3 tips to do just that!

  1. Take a trip down nostalgia lane.  Plan a date (or series of dates) for your partner that is reminiscent of the times when you fell in love.  This will trigger the feelings you both had at that point and help you see your partner how you did all that time ago.  Sometimes, we forget to see, really see our partner.  Dress up, look into their eyes, hold their hand, and kiss them like you miss them.  
     
  2. Write some love notes.  Go get some fancy stationary and bring your inner Shakespeare to the party.  Sometimes writing helps us communicate more efficiently.  Also, writing can help us bring emotions to the surface.  Concentrate on all of the things you love about your partner.  Tell them stories of how you felt when you first met, how that first kiss melted your heart.  Writing will put you into the mindset of love (only if you write about love though) and when your SO reads your letter, he/she will feel that love.  If you feel writing letters is not your style, try writing short notes on post-its and post them so your love can see them.  
     
  3. Play a game.  It's really simple, have your partner write down three things they miss from the early part of your relationship that's faded and you do the same.  Exchange the lists and commit to doing these things for each other for at least the next three months.  Sometimes when we get into relationships, we simply forgot to do things that make our partners feel special and loved.  This exercise serves as a simple reminder of what those things are and they need some throwback action.  

Now that you're armed with some tips to try, go get them tiger!  If you find that you enjoyed these exercises and are craving a little more, be sure to try out A Little Love Connection, an empowerment kit from My Little Magic Shop, designed to help you recover that magic in your relationship.  Also, we now have a couple's Astro reading!